Why Most People Never Reach Financial Success

The following points are from the perspective of what it takes in starting and maintaining a successful business. Business ownership and financial wealth hold a strong correlation. Below I list observable challenges and such attributes that I have learned to acquire to get where I’m at today. After each segment, I add what I needed to do to get on board with these attributes.

1) The environment and its challenges.
If you’re a single mother with two children, for example, it’s much more difficult to reach financial wealth than a single person with no children or a married couple without children that have STEM degrees making over $300k in combined income. I waited until I was 41 years old to have children. It took me a while to get to a financially stable situation.

2) Direction.
What path to take and believe that is the best path to wealth. Most millionaires take on average 15 to 20 years to reach their status. This is because there are trials and errors in the process. Some of those errors, though educational, cost a lot of time and money two of which many can’t afford. Reading many books and/or getting degrees in lucrative fields are in general good paths but then again both of these require a lot of time and/or money. I studied Psychology in college. After realizing that I didn’t have a passion for the field and that my base salary barely paid my rent, I re-enrolled in college and studied Computer Science. The outcome of this new direction was that I was able to start a business which increased my income.

3) Discipline and Perserverence.
It requires a lot of discipline to acquire wealth. This starts with a goal and a gameplan and sticking with it through thick and thin. Most of this is taught at home. This is also where your environment affects your outcome. I’ve had my eyes on being in business for nearly a decade. It was baked in every career choice I made until finally, I was an independent software developer and then a hotel owner. It was not uncommon for me to work 10-12 hour days some times 7 days a week.

4) Ownership.
This is fourth but trumps on all of the other three. Take full ownership of your life. You are the owner of your life and what you do has a direct effect in where you’re currently at in life. If you acquired bad disciplinary skills growing up, and you blame your parents for this and you are now an adult, then why are you still blaming your parents if they are no longer educating you? Education, no matter what age, never stops. You take your own education into your own hands and make the changes you need to gear yourself for success. This was kind of an eye-opener in that I’ve read it in several financial books. It has really helped me reassess my bad habits and stay the course. I incorporated a mentality that if I didn’t like how things were going, then it had to do with the decisions I’ve made and/or the efforts I’ve placed. I was the cause and effect of my world.

5) Masochism and Resilience.
Most of us humans naturally tend to gear towards easy and stay away from pain. Are most humans millionaires? Statistics to date states we are a rare bunch. You have to be willing to do what most will not or do not do. You have to maintain a high threshold for pain and psychology uncertainty. In other words, you have to acquire a taste for masochism. Masochism translates into working long hours, working an additional two to five hours after you get off of your full-time job, research for hours on end, network and getting out of your comfort zone, risk your life’s savings if you really believe in your service/product, and if you fail, be willing to do it all over again. I once started a paintball park business. In order to complete the project, I had to invest all my savings. Four months later, I was living in a van for the next 7 months. I learned from my mistakes and continued my entrepreneurial journey in other businesses.

6) Patience.
As mentioned before, it took most millionaire 15 to 20 years to reach their goal. They had the patience and maintained the course to get what they wanted. They took incremental steps, daily sacrifices without any gratification. Building wealth is a slow and gradual process that requires a lot of focus. It has taken me about 20 years to get where I am at. I currently have assets in the stock market, own two multi-unit apartments, 15 acres of land, and a beach hotel. This was done slowly and incrementally with a focus on investing and starting businesses.